I recently met a young woman who was warm, caring, and had a vibrant faith in Jesus. She was knowledgeable of God's Word and had a natural ability to make people feel at ease. I was surprised when she declined being a small group leader because she didn't think she was qualified.
What does it take to be a leader of a small group? What skills are necessary to lead a group of people toward a closer relationship with Jesus Christ? One way of answering these questions is to look at the qualities of those who have made a difference in your life. Who has influenced you and what skills and qualities did he or she possess that helped you grow closer to Christ? If you answered these questions, you would likely discover some of the key characteristics of leaders who make a difference.
- A growing relationship with Jesus.The people who have made a difference in my life were growing in their relationship with Christ. I was able to view their lives as Christians in the midst of their journey, not as people who had "arrived." I was privileged to see people who were struggling to bring a Christlike response to the problems of everyday life.
- Vulnerability. The leaders who have made a mark on my life have been honest with me. I believe most people shy away from those who present themselves as being immune from the pressures and problems of life.
- A commitment to learn. I am drawn to people who are students of life and am challenged by those who are continually sharpening their skills. I am motivated by people who are seeking to be better small group leaders. more effective parents, greater difference makers in the work place — people who want to learn and grow in all areas of life.
- A sincere love. The old saying is true: "People don't care how much you know until they know how much you care." The people who have moved, stretched, and challenged me were influential in my life because of their love. At times their love has been confronting, sometimes demanding, sometimes gentle and nurturing, but always for my benefit. I could always trust that their actions were rooted in love.