Keeping Our Promises Together

How one church started a Promise Keepers accountability group.

When the men from our Sunday school class came home from the 1994 Promise Keepers convention in Indianapolis, most of them seemed genuinely changed in their attitudes.

One guy who usually only joked around in class became serious about praying for our ministers. Others who rarely spoke in class began to share deep insights into the Scriptures. One man who was only marginally committed to the church at the time, began attending every Sunday. He was the one who, several weeks after the conference, announced in class one Sunday that he was starting a Promise Keepers group, to meet at his house the following Tuesday evening.

Nine guys started meeting every week. (This is large for an accountability group—usually four to five is a maximum number for accountability and trust to take place.) Three of us did not even attend the conference in 1994, but that didn't matter. What mattered was our joint commitment to each other and to God. One of our main objectives was to hold each other accountable to live lives of integrity in our homes, places of work, schools, and church.

What We Did

The first several weeks we met, we shared our pasts, our struggles, and what we wanted the others to hold us accountable for. After that, we started using the book, Seven Promises of a Promise Keeper as a guide for our meetings. We also used Serendipity's Men: Six Sessions for Starting a Men's Group. Then we used Men Facing Temptation, in the "Created Male and Female Bible Studies" series from InterVarsity Press.

One of the best things we decided to do was to affirm one person in the group at each meeting. Every week for nine weeks we chose one guy, and the rest of us would tell him why we admire him, tell him what his strengths and gifts are, ...

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