To Coach with Love

One Small-Group Leader shares her needs with her coach.

Dear Coach Emma,

Today marks my second anniversary as a Small Group Leader. I'd like to take this opportunity to thank you for supporting me all the way. During our last huddle, you asked us what our needs were and you said that our answers would help you a lot. I've been thinking about this for the past 2 weeks, and I'd like to share it with you:

You know, as a young leader, sometimes I really do not know what I truly need. Yes, I have the passion and desire to serve God and others, but I don't really know how to get there. Frankly, when I first learned about the role of a Small Group Leader, I felt quite overwhelmed. Yes, I was excited about the ministry, but me—being a shepherd leader?!! Me- helping others grow?!! Wow, that's very scary! My initial response was that I need to grow a lot more before I could handle this role. You assured me that in every ministry there is always the need to take the step of faith, and you assured me that the Holy Spirit is there to help me and guide me!

Now, as I look back within these two years of ministry, you are right! Yes, the Holy Spirit was indeed there to help me, and despite some bumps along the way, I can say I was stretched by Him in many ways. I feel that I am closer to Him than before. Throughout these two years, I see that there were 3 things that I felt was crucial to my development:

I. Vision

Your team has set a strong vision for us to follow! Through the training courses, the annual rallies, and the monthly huddles, I now understand:

  • The purpose of the ministry (why we are doing it)

  • The goals of the ministry (where we are heading)

  • The core values of the ministry (how we do it)

  • My role as a Small Group Leader (how I participate)

I know that in the beginning my focus was mostly ...

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