A friend who was in charge of our men's ministry once said, "Some of these guys really don't want me coaching them; they don't want my help!"
"That's all right," I said, "If all these guys are living spiritually healthy lives, you can take it easy."
"But some aren't thriving spiritually," he said. "They need encouragement."
A coach's primary goal is to help leaders become fully mature in Christ. Colossians 1:28 says, "We are to proclaim him, admonishing every man and woman, and teaching every man with all wisdom that we may present every man or woman complete in Christ." Jesus desires that we grow deeper in our walk with him so we're prepared for the mission to which God has called us.Â
By mentoring small group leaders and their groups, we participate in the process of presenting every man and woman complete in Christ. This happens by helping them cultivate their spiritual health—even when it's an uphill battle.
The acronym MENTOR provides steps to help you guide your small group leaders to spiritual maturity.
Motivate them to find a spiritual partner. You might think you already are their spiritual partner, but realistically, you can't be every leader's partner. One of the greatest gifts you can give your leaders is another person who will help them move to the next step in their spiritual journey, including listening, encouraging, fellowshipping, and exhorting.
Gently remind your leaders that if they're going to lead in the church, they must grow in their faith. Then simply ask them who they would like to help them grow--this shifts the burden from you to them. You might periodically connect with ...