The Presence and the Presents

Encountering God's presence and experiencing the presents of the Holy Spirit go together.
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The expectations we have about God's presence in our whole church gatherings impact our expectations about God's presence in our small groups. Recently, I've been reading a stack of books on small groups that have been released over the last two or three years. It has saddened me how little most of these books have to say about God. They address key sociological principles about how to lead small groups. They explain how to set up small-group structures and get people connected in community. They even teach people how to lead Bible discussions. However, regarding how the Spirit of God might work through a small group of people, it looks to me like we are "uninformed." (There is the possibility that all of these authors are part of churches that experience God's presence so clearly and regularly that they do not need to talk about it. If that is the case, then I wish they would speak to that because it would make for much more exciting reading.)

The Spirit's Gifts

Sometimes I reflect on the New Testament and imagine what Paul might say to the church today. It might be something like: "If you want to be used of God through spiritual gifts, then start experiencing God's Spirit together. The gifts are gifts of God's Spirit. They are not yours for the using as you will." Of course, our next question to Paul would be, "How do you do this?" Then in my imagination I hear him responding: "What exactly do you mean? How else would you relate to God? You relate."

Even as I imagine this, I get frustrated with the vagueness in my own imagination. I want a how-to manual for encountering God's presence in a group. But that is not how relationships work. We cannot put a formula to relationships. As soon as we make a relationship about principles or steps, we've turned it into something that is not an encounter with the other person. God cannot be objectified this way. Relationships are about taking risks, about give-and-take, and about the discovery of the other person as we make mistakes along the way.

We learn to relate on the road of relating, not in classroom. The same is true in our relationship with God. We just have to start relating to him together in our small groups, and from this, gifts of the Spirit will arise.

This may require a few changes in the way we typically do groups in American churches:

  1. Change the expectations. If people expect to gather around a Bible study or a DVD curriculum, or even around social interaction, the presence of the Spirit will be minimal. If people expect to meet with God and trust Jesus' words: "Where two or three gather in my name, there I am also," then people will seek something different in the group's life—even if they don't know how.
  2. Shorten the Bible study to make room to wait on God together.
  3. Take the risk of allowing silence during the meeting.
  4. Vary the agenda from week to week.
  5. Eat together. You might be surprised by this one, but I have found food to be essential to connecting with one another and in inviting God's presence into our midst.

Encountering God's presence and experiencing the presents of the Holy Spirit go together. We know how to fill a meeting with answers to Bible study questions, singing songs, and even prayer requests, but these things we know how to do can stand in the way of relating to the God who speaks in a "still small voice." Unless we hear this voice and make room in our groups to encounter God, we will miss out on the power of spiritual gifts. God is big enough that He can still use us and move through us, but he has so much more for us.

—Scott Boren is the author of The Relational Way: From small-group structures to holistic life connections; copyright 2010 by the author and Christianity Today International.

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