There are five essential habits practiced by effective coaches of group leaders. In order to remember them, I use an acrostic: C.O.A.C.H. and put it around a star in order to make them more easy to remember.
C - Care: Care about them, their families, jobs, health, their group, and their future.
We have all heard it before, "People do not care how much you know until they know how much you care." The reason we have all heard it with such frequency is because it is true. Effective coaches care about the leaders they oversee.
Humanly speaking, I am in ministry today because a youth pastor took the time and trouble to build a relationship with me. He cared. He filled my tanks. He listened. Because he cared for me, I learned to care for others and about ministry.
Learn to give your potential leaders appropriate affection and care. It fills their tanks and enhances your relationship. Tell them. Show them. A timely phone call, a card with words of encouragement, an appropriate handshake, a pat on the back, or a hug will go along way in letting the important people you minister to know that you love them.
O - Observe: Visit their Group and observe its health, growth, life and multiplication.
When my boys were little they said three particular words more than any others. Do you know what they were? (If you thought, "He did it," you win. But there were three other words they said almost as often). They would climb up the slide and yell, "Look at me!" They would hang upside down from the monkey bars and shout, "Daddy, look at me." Or they would come out of my room wearing my 'big man' clothes on their 'little boy' bodies and scream in delight, "Daddy, look at me." People have a natural need to be recognized, noticed, observed.
Mike, one ...