"Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus." I know; it's a book title. I've never read it, but over the past few years, I think I've heard almost all of it … because I've heard so many people quote it to me "out loud!" There have been more than a few people who wanted me to realize that men and women each have unique strengths and weaknesses. They have wanted me to "get it" when it comes to the unique qualities each gender brings to life. By the same token, it is important to "get it" when it comes to leveraging the unique qualities each gender brings into opportunities like small group leadership.
So, if you and your spouse are Christ-followers and are leading a couples small group or other type of mixed gender group, you are missing an incredible ministry opportunity if you are not leading with your spouse as a team. I'm not talking just about leading the group discussion time, but leading in all areas of your unique giftedness. (See Rom. 12:6-11)
Typically, husbands and wives have different spiritual gift mixes. Our unique gift differences help us to minister more effectively as a spouse team. For example, some time ago Kim mentioned to me that one of our group members seemed down. I missed it. It turned out to be the anniversary of a death in their family. Kim picked up on that and sent flowers and a card. I do not tend to be as discerning, but in this case, God allowed Kim's gift of discernment to meet a great need in the life of a group member. The spouse team working together can help model for the group the body of Christ working together as a unit. (See 1 Cor. 12:27)
A husband and wife typically have different personality types. We tend to be attracted to someone of opposite personality who completes what we ...