4. Celebrate small successes.
Building a thriving small-group community is a challenge, and the church is still struggling with how to incorporate singles, but I truly believe small groups can be one of the keys. If you get a group for singles started, it’s a success—even knowing that one group won’t meet all of the needs presenting in your church.
5. Value relationships over relationship statuses.
God is neither married nor single, but he is relational. And we all share that, as we are made in his image. Your ministry should be promoting what makes us alike, not what divides us. And small-group ministries that only further the divide between married and single people tend to elevate and privilege one while diminishing the other, so work on establishing likeness rather than exposing differences, no matter which model you choose.
The church that doesn’t work to incorporate singles into their infrastructure is one that won’t be around in 20 years, so evaluate your small-group ministry and see how you can begin to integrate singles today.
—Joy Beth Smith is an editor with Christianity Today and the author of Party of One: Truth, Longing, and the Subtle Art of Singleness. Follow her on Twitter and Facebook: @JBsTwoCents.