Developing True Accountability

Developing True Accountability

Only our soul friends can show us the evil within us.


Most of us have acquaintances who teach us doctrine or dispense advice. But have we formed honest, open friendships that are grounded in prayer and concern for all of life? While the terms "spiritual director" and "soul friend" may sound new to some, they have their roots in Scripture and the history of Christian spirituality. Many people see the resurgence of spiritual friendship as something that is sorely needed in a day when we seem to be more informed and less transformed than ever.

Table of Contents

SCRIPTURE: 1 Samuel 20:3542, 23:1518; 2 Samuel 1:2526; Ruth 1:122; Proverbs 17:17, 18:24, 27:6, 910, 17; Ecclesiastes 4:912; Matthew 4:1822, 17:113, 26:3747, 18:1920; Luke 1:2656; 2 Timothy 4:913, 1922; Hebrews 10:2425; James 5:16


• The Issue

Sample questions:

Why are we often superficial in our relationships?

Why do you think there is such an emphasis on individualism among evangelical Christians today?

• The Scriptures

Sample Scriptures:

List the characteristics of true friendship described in: Proverbs 17:17, Proverbs 18:24, Proverbs 27:6, 910, 17

Ecclesiastes 4:912: Could these characteristics be present in friendships among non-Christians?

• The Application

Sample application questions:

What aspects of the process of spiritual direction make it difficult to analyze and organize?

Briefly describe a relationship you have had with someone you consider a spiritual friend.

• Recommended Resources


Independence Myth, by James M. Houston (January 1990, 11 printed pages)

Total number of pages – 11

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