A Cure for Whiners

A Cure for Whiners

How can we teach our children to obey without arguing?


Whining and arguing in response to an instruction seem to be accepted as a childhood rite of passage in our current culture. This study will guide parents in techniques of discipline that are grounded in Scripture and challenge parents to use discipline techniques that replace whining and arguing with obedience and respect.

Should children be expected to obey before discussing an instruction? How can a child appeal to a parent with respect and wisdom? What roles, if any, do negotiation and compromise play in discipline? How does effective discipline influence a child's long-term relationships, future employment, and the desire to be submissive and respectful to leadership and authority?

Table of Contents

SCRIPTURE: Genesis 22; Esther 4:5-5:8; 7:1-10; Acts 8:26-40; 1 Timothy 5:1-2


• Identify the Current Issue

• Discover the Eternal Principles

-Teaching point one: Understanding does not have to precede obedience.

-Teaching point two: Discussion comes after compliance.

-Teaching point three: Parents can teach children ways to appeal that demonstrate an attitude of respect.

-Teaching point four: The wise appeal process helps children learn to negotiate, compromise, and become part of a solution in all relationships and conflicts they face.

• Apply Your Findings

• Additional Resources


Stop the Whining, by Joanne Miller (March/April 2002, 6 printed pages)

  • Word Document
  • SMG-CPT010-D