Four Qualities All Small-Group Coaches Need

Four Qualities All Small-Group Coaches Need

What to look for in potential coaches for your ministry

Note: This article is excerpted from our training tool Recruit Great Coaches.

To recruit great small-group coaches, a lot depends on what you expect your coaches to do. Are you doing huddle-based coaching or one-on-one? Do your coaches have responsibilities for any of the logistics of group life or are they solely focused on pastoral care?

At National Community Church, coaches are a support for small-group leaders who disciple and care for group members. A coach is a leader of leaders, providing care, guidance, and encouragement. Coaches facilitate monthly huddles for their leaders and meet one-on-one as needed.

That means when I’m looking for coaches, I look for people who are experienced at leading small groups. They’re the kind of people who will know what to do in various group situations, like when someone talks too much or there’s a too-big-to-handle pastoral care issue. They need to have the wisdom to navigate difficult situations with grace. They also need to be able to operate without continual reminders because the directors depend on them to take some of the load off their plate.

While much of that is unique to National Community Church, there are four attributes all coaches need, regardless of structure: character, competence, chemistry, and commitment.


This is so fundamental that it’s easy to overlook. But it’s incredibly important that coaches are full of character. Though your coaches may not operate as elders in your context, their responsibilities align with the biblical description: to settle disputes, pray for the sick, watch out for issues that may arise, and spend their time praying and teaching.

With that in mind, it seems the qualifications for coaches should match those for elders outlined in 1 Timothy 3: above reproach, humble, calm, sober, peaceful, generous, hospitable, a lover of good, holy, disciplined, unwavering, prudent, respectable, able to teach, gentle, having a good reputation, and not new to the faith.

Jim Collins calls these permission-to-play values. In other words, if someone doesn’t have these basic character traits, you can stop right now.


I can train new coaches in some of the skills necessary for their specific role, but they need to bring something to the table. There are a few areas where I’m looking for competency.

The first is leadership. This is crucial to the coaching role. Small-group leaders don’t necessarily need to be great leaders. They can lead a group well with other traits: hospitable, knowledgeable, and relational. But if coaches are leaders of leaders, it’s not enough simply to be hospitable—you have to be the kind of person people want to follow.

Leaders aren’t just looking for a friend or a good meal—although that can certainly help! Instead, leaders have hills that need taking and problems that need solving. They look to their coach to help figure those things out. If coaches are just hospitable and can’t help chart a clear path forward, group leaders will quickly find better things to do with their time.

The second area of competence I look for is good small-group leadership. It’s not necessary that coaches are great small-group leaders. In fact, your best coaches may not be great group leaders. I’m certainly not an amazing group leader. I’m merely average at facilitating discussion. I understand the skills well enough, however, to help struggling leaders think through their issues. Coaches should have some experience leading a group so they can understand the skills leaders need and the issues they face. This helps them coach well.

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