Honest to God and Others

Creating entryways into your life will encourage honesty among your group.

"Joel, there are very few entryways into your life," my brother Andy said to me. "You have a tendency to make yourself look good—always putting your best foot forward. It's hard for people to relate to you, " he said. The painful truth of my brother's words dug deep into my soul. He was right.

My brother Andy knows the importance of an honest, transparent lifestyle. God delivered him from homosexuality twenty-four years ago. Now Andy and his wife Annette constantly magnify God's grace in their lives by helping others overcome sexual problems. For Andy, this means sharing his testimony continually. Open and transparent communication helps him to minister God's grace to others.

The words of my brother Andy continue to speak to me today. I've tried to apply Andy's counsel by creating entryways.


Entryways. Synonyms include: door, entrance, access. Over the last several years, I've had to confront my tendency to erect doors and barriers instead of entryways. I like to look good. I have an inbred inclination to impress and magnify my accomplishments. I want others to say great job, Joel. Honest living before God and others doesn't come natural for me.

Actually, there is nothing in the Bible that talks about creating entryways. There are many examples, however, of transparent living before God. In effect, my brother Andy was saying, "Joel, you need more transparency in your life."

The words of the apostle John have helped me to understand transparency. John says, " … if we walk in the light, as he is in the light, we have fellowship with one another, and the blood of Jesus, his Son, purifies us from all sin" (1 John 1:7). Walking in God's light enhances transparency and vulnerability. God's penetrating light reveals ...

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