Darryl is worn out. Leading his group keeps him busy constantly, and that's on top of his family and job. And forget about recreation! Each week he plans the meeting: icebreaker, Bible study, worship, and prayer time; he makes plans for the group to do service projects together because several members have said they wanted to do that; and he lines up child care, social activities, and just about everything else for the group. He's been doing this since the group began a couple years ago (it seems like 10 to Darryl!).
What should Darryl do?
It sounds as if Darryl needs to get a grip on his group or he'll be toast! This is a pitfall of many group leaders—the "I need to do everything and be everything" syndrome. (It's also known as the "Messiah Complex!") For some reason, many leaders feel that in order to be the leader, they must do and be responsible for everything. There are two problems with this mind-set.
First, few people can maintain the type of schedule Darryl is facing. Like Darryl, for most of us, our jobs and families are each full-time jobs. Few can add another full time job on top of that, and God doesn't intend for us to do so. That's why he gave us the Body of Christ—so that ministry can be differentiated according to who is best equipped to do it. The doctrine of the body and of spiritual gifts is for every group of more than one person doing anything in the kingdom. This concept does more than distribute functions based on giftedness. It also distributes the workload and assures that each person has an equal opportunity to share in ministry.
Second, Darryl needs to remember the concept of group ownership. In my book, Small Group Bible Studies: How to Lead Them, I tell the story of learning about ...