Building Accountability

A list of suggestions to build accountability in your small group.

Accountability is the turbocharger for spiritual growth in a small group. Many of us say we want to grow spiritually, but we fall short mainly because we lack encouragement from Christian friends.

Here is a list of suggestions to build accountability in your small group.

1. Choose an accountability partner in your small group. Men always select men and women always select women. Base your selection on natural affinity. Whom do you enjoy being with? With whom are you at ease in your group?

2. Agree as a group to allow time (about ten minutes) for accountability partners to get together during each meeting. Accountability pairs should find a quiet place to discuss their responses to customized accountability questions.

3. Meet outside the group setting with your partner and discuss issues for which you need accountability. This doesn't mean you have to bare your soul and tell your deepest secrets. Just let the natural affinity you have for one another be the foundation of your sharing. What are the potholes that hang you up spiritually? What are your daily struggles?

4. Select accountability questions that relate to the following areas: your relationship with God, your relationship with your spouse, your relationship with your children, your use of time and money, moral and ethical behavior, and areas of personal struggle.

Here are a few sample questions:

  • How is your relationship with God right now?
  • How are you doing with your spouse? kids?
  • Have you compromised your integrity this week?
  • How have you demonstrated a servant's heart?

5. Develop an accountability covenant. Agree to meet with your partner. Agree to answer one question in one of the areas mentioned above at each group meeting. (You select your own question, but rotate ...

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