Finally, and most importantly, I seek to live according to Philippians 2:1–11 with everyone, but especially with Heidi. I seek to love and serve her as Christ loves me. I remind myself to set aside selfish ambition and vain conceit, which were at the root of my actions before. I seek to humbly value Heidi above myself, putting her interests above my own.
What I’ve found is that I can love and serve God with my whole heart, and I can love and serve my wife wholeheartedly as well. I don’t have the ability to do that on my own, but God gives me the ability to do this well and bear fruit.
As I write this, Heidi is on her way home from work, so it’s time to stop and eat dinner together. I work from a home office, so I’ll “clock out” from this job and turn my heart toward her. We’ll sit on the couch later and talk. I’ll ask her about her day and listen intently. She needs me to be present with her—and there’s nothing I’d rather do.
I think I hear her car pulling into the driveway now.
―Michael C. Mack is a small-group consultant, the author of numerous books, and the editor of Christian Standard, a church leadership magazine started in 1866.