Wisdom from Derek Webb

Why three phrases are essential for healthy community

Derek Webb, a solo singer/songwriter who was formerly part of Caedmon's Call, recently visited our offices here at Christianity Today for a concert and interview. His eighth solo album, I Was Wrong, I'm Sorry & I Love You, released on September 3, 2013.

He treated us to acoustic versions of many of his new singles including "Lover Part 3" (a completion of three different songs on the Trinity) and "Everything Will Change" (a hopeful, joyful song about not losing hope that Christ will change everything in the end).

As Webb sang "Everything Will Change," I saw his heart's intentions: to remind people that even though the world looks bad right now, even though the church has countless flaws, even though it looks like things can never get better, the core of our faith is believing that they will. God will, in fact, change everything. And we must hold to that hope at all times—especially when things seem to be going terribly wrong.

When he sang "I Was Wrong, I'm Sorry & I Love You," I was blown away by this important message for living in community. During the interview, he expressed that this song is and has been his message all along. This is what life as a Christ-follower is all about. We must say this over and over to God, and we must say this over and over to the people in our lives.

So many problems in community seem to be caused by people not admitting they're wrong, not saying they're sorry, and not remembering their love for one another. When we can get good at saying we're wrong and apologizing, we build relational bridges rather than tear them down with blame and pride. When we remember our love for one another, we're willing to be honest, to say sorry, to forgive. And as we show our true selves to one another, we grow together, becoming more like Christ.

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