A Road Map to Men's Group Success

How a covenant can help your men's group survive.

"What is going on with George? This is the second week in a row he has come to group late, flopped down in a chair, crossed his arms, stared at the floor and is acting like he's daring us to get him to talk." I hate it when group turns into an arbitration session. What is so bad in his life that he can come in here and manipulate the rest of us? Can't he just get his stuff in order before he shows up for our weekly small group meeting? I hope the other guys don't get so fed up with this that they quit coming. It took me forever to convince Ken and John to come in the first place. Maybe I ought to take George aside and tell him to stay away from the group until he gets some counseling or something.

I remember those meetings in one of my first men's groups. They was precious and terrifying times. We didn't know much about group life, though we shared a common need to grow, learn and develop relationships. Fifteen years later and I find myself participating in yet another men's group, with many of the same issues to work through, but with a little more understanding and more realistic expectations. I get to hang out with 5 or 6 other men who are looking for similar things from this group. I'm looking forward to our meeting this morning because it is becoming an oasis for me. A place of understanding, mutual care and encouragement. It's becoming a safe place, for it is one of the few places where I can be, and not have to do.

Mike, our group leader, is careful in his leadership. He is deliberate and methodical, while sensitive enough to push his plan aside long enough to accommodate one of us who needs to spend a little extra time "unpacking" about a particular issue that we're dealing with. He is an engineer at a large corporation, ...

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